Marriage, Couple and Relationship Therapy
Marriage and Couples Counselling, serving Burlington, Oakville, Hamilton in office, and virtual across Ontario.
Cut the crap and reconnect for real.
Couples counselling Burlington helps couples reconnect and repair.
Feeling hurt, angry and overwhelmed.
When there are so many resentments, hurts and loneliness in the marriage, you need help getting out of the mess to steer both of you to harmony and compassion.
You want a partner, not a roommate.
You feel disconnected. Maybe you even feel like you are his mother. You want a partner that shares your dreams, challenges and hopes. You just want things to be different.
I’m Paul! As an experienced Burlington marriage and relationship counsellor, I help couples sort out their stuff so that they can build or rebuild a trusting, connecting and satisfying relationship.
Common Problems Faced By Couples
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Last Chance Couples
Brink on divorce? Willing to give it one last shot? Tired of “rinse & repeat”? Many couples facing this last ditch effort have found new hope as Paul’s ability to get couples unstuck has been incredible. Weekly sessions or even couples intensives can help you save your relationship.

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Repair from Infidelity
Are you wondering if it’s even possible to recover from the hurt finding out your partner has cheated? Paul guides couples carefully through the entire process from acknowledgement, ownership to repair and healing. Most couples can experience healing and repair.

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Fighting, Arguments, "Roommate Syndrome"
You fight and then you fight about fighting. You may not even remember what the original fight was about. Have you stopped bringing things up because of it? Paul gets it and he helps couples find new ways of fighting so that couples can feel seen and heard.

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Couples Trying to Navigate Life Transitions
Changing careers? Retirement coming up? Kids leaving the house and facing empty nest syndrome? These changes are big and impacts the marriage significantly. Planning ahead is key. Paul helps couples understand their next chapter.

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Couples Trying to Decide - Stay or Go?
You are tired of the same old stuff. So much to consider though. The house, kids, finances. Discernment Counselling is designed to help you consider it all. Up to 5 sessions, structured and with purpose. A step to easing your mind.

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Things are Good, But There's Room For Better
Is your relationship fairly good. No significant complaints, but want to fine tune things to make it even better? Therapy is not just for high conflict couples. Couples can benefit from a session or two. Let’s make things even better.

10 most common reasons couples come to counselling…
feeling distant and disconnected
problems with the in-laws
work-life stress and imbalance
growing apart and difference in needs, wants and values
infidelity, flirting, lack of boundaries
poor communication
ongoing conflicts and arguing
lack of communication
living like roommates
Infidelity Recovery
Absolutely devastated. Deeply hurt. Fierce anger. Many say this after discovering a partner cheated: “Can we recover?” “How could they do this?” “Was our marriage a lie?”
I help couples facing infidelity. In counselling we explore why it happened and whether recovery is possible. We look for honest ownership and whether both partners want to repair the relationship.
We also address:
emotional affairs
physical affairs
weak or crossed boundaries
sexting and flirting
secretive friendships outside the marriage
Communication Repair
Frustration. Feeling unheard. Losing connection. These are common when couples can’t communicate, leading to constant arguing, ignoring each other, and drifting apart.
Many say, “We live like roommates,” or “If this doesn’t change, I can’t keep living like this,” or “When things are good, they’re great; when they’re bad, they’re really bad.”
I help couples see their communication patterns, stop unhelpful habits, and learn new ways to talk that actually work. Improving communication, emotional connection, and feeling seen can take a few sessions or longer.
Poor communication affects:
feeling heard and understood
emotional connection
physical intimacy
relationships with others (like in-laws)
how you argue, resolve conflicts, and compromise
Experienced couples counselling that heals and strengthens relationships.
IN PERSON AT THE BURLINGTON OFFICE AND VIRTUAL ACROSS ONTARIO
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Reviews from Clients
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“You are like an angel sent down to help us. I will never forget all you have done for us. Thank you!”
“Amazing! I have learned more about myself in one hour then I have any other time.”
“So happy I found you. We are still married today because of our sessions with you!”
“We came to you in our most darkest time and you helped us navigate it. Forever thankful!”
“We could never have done it without you. Your timing questions, your empathy and focus…”
“You showed that you cared about us. You wanted us to succeed and we did, because of you.”
Paul Lucas, Marriage Counselling and Couples Counselling in Burlington
As a marriage and couples counsellor I specialize in helping couples recover from infidelity, lack of connection and poor communication.
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