Is There A Path To Repair After An Affair?
When you just found out your partner has cheated, the emotional effect is huge. “How could they have done this to me?” “Am I not good enough?” “What was she/he thinking?”.
The confusion, the self-blaming and the anger and hurt that surrounds infidelity is all consuming, often leading to sleepless nights, poor eating and even time away from work.
Is there a path to reconciliation? Can trust be rebuilt?
The answer is YES! Though it may seem hard right now to believe it, it is impossible.
Assuming that the affair has stopped, daily expression of accountability and remorse is vital to the repair process. In therapy I will help both of you by:
step by step guidance on how to take ownership and when
daily ‘must-do’s to facilitate forgiveness and acceptance
weekly check ins for accountability and communication
guiding questions that will aid in understanding, an absolute necessary component for rebuilding trust
a road map for the next 6 months and beyond
As a couples therapist, I have specialized in helping couples rebuild after the devastating effects of infidelity. It will not be easy, but you will not be alone. I will help through the entire process.
Common questions that couples have when starting therapy for infidelity:
“Will we talk about why it even happened in the first place?”
Yes, we need to understand why this happened. We will also explore many other questions that are even more important than why.
“Is this really repairable? I am absolutely crushed.”
The focus will be proper repair. Whether you can trust your partner again, that will remain unseen for now. I have seen many couples work very hard in repairing and rebuilding their relationship.
If you just found out that your partner has cheated, do not wait to start counselling. Both of you must attend the sessions and start right away. Book your first session today and begin the process of repair and hopefully a rebuild.
Learn more about how counselling works. Or learn more about Paul.