The Narcissist Plan

When narcissists get caught they remain in control. Here are some common behaviors that narcissists do when they get caught doing something wrong.

• they rage or have a child-like tantrum.

• they tell you some sad, sob story which they then use as an excuse for their behavior.

• they deny, deny, deny. Even when there is proof, they deny.

• they gaslight, confuse you, manipulate you and straight out lie.

• they deflect and turn it around about you.

• they get mad at you for being bad at them

• they punish you, such as using silent treatments, for bringing up what they did wrong.

• they turn it around and play the victim.

So, let us summarize. When narcissists get caught they rage, make excuses, deny, gaslight, confuse you, manipulate, lie, deflect, get mad, punish and play the victim.

If you are married to a narcissist, it is really important that you have an individual therapist to guide you. Remember not to engage with their behavior. Get the support you need from a local therapist as without support, you will be in a hostile, frustrating and lonely relationship that can tear you down.

Paul Lucas is a marriage and relationship counsellor. He has faced many narcissists in his time as a counsellor and knows full well how difficult it is to live with a narcissistic partner. Couples and marriage therapy may not be the answer if your partner is a true, hardcore narcissist. Seek individual therapy to help you.