I help couples repair their relationship after infidelity…
by helping them take ownership, get real with themselves on why it happened in the first place and how to rebuild the trust.
I help couples communicate with each other…
differently than what they have been doing, by helping them undo relational mistakes they’ve been taught, while learning new, effective ways that encourages connection.
I help couples fight fair and repair…
by introducing fair fighting rules, strategies when things get out of control and to stay in the “wise adult” (second conscience) during conflicts.
Breaking the rules of traditional couples therapy
a direct and honest approach, not hiding behind therapy lingo
organized and structured way to resolve conflicts, resentments
space to talk without judgment, to share and explore
taking sides when needed, not all problems are 50-50. Sometimes they are 90-10
focused on helping couples make drastic changes quickly, to go from disharmony, to repair and back to harmony
Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
RLT is at the heart of what we do. Proven to be highly successful in helping couples move from disharmony back to harmony. Sessions are direct, blunt and super focused on the relationship. RLT was created by Terry Real. You can learn more about RLT by watching this short clip.
Founder of Relational Life Therapy
Gottman
Dr. Gottman is a well known couples therapist that has been able to predict the likelihood of a couples’ divorce just by watching how they argue and communicate. He is well known for his “4 horsemen” analogy. Much of the homework that is given to couples originates from the Gottman Method. I am also an approved member of the Gottman Relationship Checkup, an assessment tool that is given to most couples.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy & Solution Focused Therapy
Well known for their effective use in moving couples who are “stuck”, CBT and SFT is utilized especially when working with couples individually. Client learn techniques on how to challenge their automatic thoughts, learn where they come from and create new, refreshing ways to think about situations. SFT is great for those who are logical thinkers and have a natural need to fix.
Couples Weekly Sessions
All across Ontario, couples are coming virtually weekly or bi-weekly for marriage, relationship and couples counselling. And those living closer, such as Burlington, Hamilton, Oakville and Niagara, couples are coming in person. Weekly or bi-weekly sessions for the first couple months helps couples break out of what is, and familiarize themselves with what can be. Frequent, consistent sessions has been proven to be most effective in helping couples repair and rebuild.
My promise to you is that I will do my very best to figure out the “dance” that you both are stuck in. The more you do this, the more they do that. Once we have that down, we will get into why this dance occurred to begin with. Where did it come from? And finally, learning a new dance, a new way of being relational.
Couples Intensives
Intensives are becoming increasingly popular as more people recognize their impact and benefits. What can be covered in an intensive session would typically take weeks or even months of regular weekly or biweekly meetings.
Couples intensives can range from a 3-hour session to 2 full days (8 hours each), depending on the couple's needs.
Couples intensives are also utilized for discernment counseling. This type of counseling helps couples decide whether to stay together or separate. Like couples intensives, discernment therapy is structured and focused.
Couples Workshops
Workshops specific to couples and relationships are great add-ons to therapy. You will learn specific strategies and techniques that will help you go from disharmony back to harmony. Some workshops are one-time offers while others will run a course over several weeks.
Upcoming Workshops:
TBD
Couples Counselling for Burlington and Hamilton.
Couples and Relationship Counselling perfectly located off the QEW at Burloak Drive.
“My ideal couple to work with are couples who see a need for change and are motivated in doing so. Ones that will embark on doing things differently. Ones that will trust the process of therapy. Whether the couple is here because of horrendous communication styles or because of infidelity, I am looking to work with couples who can take ownership, who can apply new techniques and who can embrace the idea that change is good. If you let me in, I can help.”
What Clients Are Saying…
“Our sessions were very productive. I have gone to counselling before and this time it’s quite refreshing. I like how Paul approaches topics. I never knew before that humor can be part of therapy.”
“I talk to my friends about you. They are amazed on how much I have changed. Thank you for helping me!”
“I will never forget the day when we came in for a session and told you that we are now sleeping in the same bed. You were so happy for us. We slept apart for months. You challenged us to be better people. You kept us on track. You held us accountable. I love my husband so much. Thank you for helping us!”