Marriage, Couple and Relationship Counselling
Couples Counselling Burlington and Marriage Therapy Burlington. In person and by video.
Cut the crap and reconnect for real.
Couples counselling Burlington helps couples reconnect and repair.
Feeling hurt, angry and overwhelmed.
When there are so many resentments, hurts and loneliness in the marriage, you need help getting out of the mess to steer both of you to harmony and compassion.
You feel disconnected. Maybe you even feel like you are his mother. You want a partner that shares your dreams, challenges and hopes. You just want things to be different.
You want a partner, not a roommate.
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Last Chance Couples
Brink on divorce? Willing to give it one last shot? Tired of “rinse & repeat”? Many couples facing this last ditch effort have found new hope as Paul’s ability to get couples unstuck has been incredible. Weekly sessions or even couples intensives can help you save your relationship.
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Repair from Infidelity
Are you wondering if it’s even possible to recover from the hurt finding out your partner has cheated? Paul guides couples carefully through the entire process from acknowledgement, ownership to repair and healing. Most couples can experience healing and repair.
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Fighting, Arguments, "Roommate Syndrome"
You fight and then you fight about fighting. You may not even remember what the original fight was about. Have you stopped bringing things up because of it? Paul gets it and he helps couples find new ways of fighting so that couples can feel seen and heard.
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Couples Trying to Navigate Life Transitions
Changing careers? Retirement coming up? Kids leaving the house and facing empty nest syndrome? These changes are big and impacts the marriage significantly. Planning ahead is key. Paul helps couples understand their next chapter.
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Couples Trying to Decide - Stay or Go?
You are tired of the same old stuff. So much to consider though. The house, kids, finances. Discernment Counselling is designed to help you consider it all. Up to 5 sessions, structured and with purpose. A step to easing your mind.
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Things are Good, But There's Room For Better
Is your relationship fairly good. No significant complaints, but want to fine tune things to make it even better? Therapy is not just for high conflict couples. Couples can benefit from a session or two. Let’s make things even better.
10 most common reasons couples come to counselling…
feeling distant and disconnected
problems with the in-laws
work-life stress and imbalance
growing apart and difference in needs, wants and values
infidelity, flirting, lack of boundaries
poor communication
ongoing conflicts and arguing
lack of communication
living like roommates
Infidelity Recovery
Absolutely devastated. Hurt so bad. Angry like never before. These are some ways couples have shared how they felt after finding out their partner had cheated on them.
“Can we ever recover from this?” “How could s/he ever have done this?” “Was our entire marriage a sham?”
I help couples who are trying to recover from the relationship destroying news about infidelity. Through a series of counselling sessions we look at why this happened, and what can be done now to begin the process of recovering from it. Is it even possible? Is there complete and unfiltered ownership? Is there even a desire from both sides to recover?
When we talk about infidelity, we also consider the following:
emotional affairs
physical affairs
lack of boundaries and improper boundaries
sexting, flirting
lack of transparency about friendships outside of the marriage
Communication Repair
Frustration. Feeling unheard. Losing connection. These feelings are common when couples cannot communicate well with each other, which often leads to constant bickering and fighting, ignoring each other and growing further and further apart.
“We live like roommates” is a common way couples describe their relationship to me. “If things don’t improve I can’t see myself living like this forever” and “When things are good, they are good. But when they are not good, it’s pretty bad” are also common ways couples feel who don’t communicate well.
I help couples understand their communication pattern, the strategies they use to communicate that isn’t working, and help develop new strategies that actually work. Helping couples to improve communication, emotionally connect, feel validated and seen can take a few sessions or several.
Poor communication can cause real problems with:
feeling seen and heard
feeling emotionally connected
physical intimacy
outside relationships including with the in-laws
how you argue, resolve conflicts and compromising
I’m Paul! As an experienced Burlington marriage and relationship counsellor, I help couples sort out their stuff so that they can build or rebuild a trusting, connecting and satisfying relationship.
Experienced couples counselling that heals and strengthens relationships.
IN PERSON AT THE BURLINGTON OFFICE AND VIRTUAL ACROSS ONTARIO
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“You are like an angel sent down to help us. I will never forget all you have done for us. Thank you!”
“Amazing! I have learned more about myself in one hour then I have any other time.”
“So happy I found you. We are still married today because of our sessions with you!”
“We came to you in our most darkest time and you helped us navigate it. Forever thankful!”
“We could never have done it without you. Your timing questions, your empathy and focus…”
“You showed that you cared about us. You wanted us to succeed and we did, because of you.”
Paul Lucas, Marriage Counselling and Couples Counselling in Burlington
As a marriage and couples counsellor I specialize in helping couples recover from infidelity, lack of connection and poor communication.
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