Infidelity Recovery & Communication Repair
Marriage & couples counselling and therapy, Burlington office and virtual across Ontario.
My name is Paul. As a marriage and couples counsellor I specialize in helping couples recover from infidelity and repair communication.
Infidelity Recovery
Absolutely devastated. Hurt so bad. Angry like never before. These are some ways couples have shared how they felt after finding out their partner had cheated on them.
“Can we ever recover from this?” “How could s/he ever have done this?” “Was our entire marriage a sham?”
I help couples who are trying to recover from the relationship destroying news about infidelity. Through a series of counselling sessions we look at why this happened, and what can be done now to begin the process of recovering from it. Is it even possible? Is there complete and unfiltered ownership? Is there even a desire from both sides to recover?
When we talk about infidelity, we also consider the following:
emotional affairs
physical affairs
lack of boundaries and improper boundaries
sexting, flirting
lack of transparency about friendships outside of the marriage
Communication Repair
Frustration. Feeling unheard. Losing connection. These feelings are common when couples cannot communicate well with each other, which often leads to constant bickering and fighting, ignoring each other and growing further and further apart.
“We live like roommates” is a common way couples describe their relationship to me. “If things don’t improve I can’t see myself living like this forever” and “When things are good, they are good. But when they are not good, it’s pretty bad” are also common ways couples feel who don’t communicate well.
I help couples understand their communication pattern, the strategies they use to communicate that isn’t working, and help develop new strategies that actually work. Helping couples to improve communication, emotionally connect, feel validated and seen can take a few sessions or several.
Poor communication can cause real problems with:
feeling seen and heard
feeling emotionally connected
physical intimacy
outside relationships including with the in-laws
how you argue, resolve conflicts and compromising
Marriage Counselling in Burlington & Hamilton
For over 10 years I have been specializing in marriage, relationship and couples counselling in the Burlington, Hamilton and Oakville area. Since the pandemic of 2020, couples from all across Ontario have been booking virtual appointments. Our office in Burlington remains open for those wanting the traditional face to face help.
I help couples by:
helping them understand their “dance” that gets them into trouble
explaining the cycle of harmony, disharmony and repair
exploring with them what losing strategies they use during conflicts
educating the connection between the wounded inner child and their wise adult
having honest and open conversations around grandiosity and shame, boundaryless and walled off
giving them new techniques and strategies that helps them get what they want!
infidelity
poor communication
ongoing conflicts and arguing
lack of communication
living like roommates
feeling distant and disconnected
considering ending the relationship
problems with the in-laws
work-life stress and imbalance
growing apart and difference in needs, wants and values
10 Common reasons couples come to see me.
Comments from past clients. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
“You are like an angel sent down to help us…”
“You are clearly intuitive as your questions to us are bang on…”
“Thank you so much for helping us through such a dark time in our marriage.”
“We are still together, us as a couple, and our family because of you.”
“I will be forever thankful for all your help with our marriage.”
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